The Kids Are Alright: Motherhood and Martyrdom

As mothers, we have been made to believe sacrifice is part of our job description. As a result, we find ourselves giving and giving until we have nothing left to give. We always think by sacrificing so much, we are doing justice to the people around us, especially our children. Unfortunately, when we sacrifice too much, we pass some messages to our children. One, it is okay to give and give until our cups run dry. Two, we make them believe it is their birth right to have people sacrifice for them.

Today, I will be addressing the whole notion that mothers need to sacrifice all the time. As a mother, you have a right to say no, even to your children. You don’t have to keep doing everything for them. Children need to be given room to try to figure things out by themselves and fail. They also need to learn the importance of asking for help and when to ask for help.

Listen in to this episode, and I hope it will be of great help to you.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

 [00:32] The sacrifices we make as mothers and what it teaches our children

Magical Quotes from the Episode:

“We expect mothers to sacrifice everything, but we also don’t expect them to bring it up or call attention to it.”

“As mothers, we’re raising adults. We want our children to go out be self-sufficient, successful, and know that they’re capable. In order to do that, we have to let them fail, we have to give them opportunities to grow. Growth comes from failing and bucking up and figuring it out.”